drama.. drama.. so much drama.

There was an episode in my life where i've encountered countless beating up happened in my distant family, friends and acquaintances .
some were left with bruises on their face/hands/body,
some were thrown punches at the stomach to not show any bruises (clever),
some were kicked like animals,
worst... one of em was given death opportunity e.g. car break pedal not working.

BUT, ironically, these victim seems to think that some sort of violence is still tolerable.

Why?

Some tolerated because they don't have anybody/anywhere else to turn to,
Some are too young and scared to seek for help,
Some refuse others to help and decided to settle behind close door,
Some stayed because of children,
but in most cases, they are blinded in the name of 'l.o.v.e'....
until it was too late to get out of the situation.

Despite what triggered it off... still, in my personal opinion, i don't think any type of violence, against women especially, is warranted under any type of circumstances...
I'm not so sure how they managed to give the bully a chance,
as even i would shout back at anybody who shouted at me or even try to lay their finger on me.
It's just beyond logic!!!!

Ever read 'I got flowers today...' poem?
I would never want that to happen to me.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

No matter how strong a love can be, i'll never know what's coming when I'm married in the future,
but i always keep in my mind that I wouldn't allow myself to be treated violently.
I'm sure most of you wouldn't allow it either... unless you are mentally unstable & is jeopardizing your life.

Point is, i know that my opinion might not be the gold standard of which everything should be gauged.
For those of you who are reading this, but not in the same wavelength as me, might even make ugly expressions and the 'yap~ yap~ yap' gestures.

Well different people have different opinions... :)

Some people are o.k with somethings, some people are not.
Some people support homosexuality, some people don't,
Some people are alright with sharing husbands, some just won't do,
Some people don't mind being beaten up, some won't even settle for it,

The question is always, what is the gold standard?



If this violent act were to happen to my close family members,...
though as concern or as helpful as i can be,
in the end, it depends entirely on their decision.

Some could end the relationship in a nano second,
some might take years to find courage to let go.

Though it will definitely be painful to watch knowing what you have known, in the end, again, it's all about respecting their decision.

who am i to judge whether what happened is an indication to a happy ending or not?

It is also perhaps how our parents feel when they see us making silly mistakes.

Do they allow us to go through it and learn, or curtail our independence & lock us up so we never have the possibility of making bad decisions?

I guess when we have children, maybe, we will understand the delicate balances in life.
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